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  • 10 Things You Should Never Say to a New Mom

    By Michelle Ruiz

    New moms are in a glass case of emotion, so choose your words carefully, guys.

    1. "Oh my gah, just enjoy. This. Time."/"Treasure. Every. Moment."/"Isn't it bliss?" There are moments of bliss - like when your baby stops crying and falls asleep on your shoulder. But when everyone implies new motherhood is nirvana, when in fact your baby is really whiny and you're so overwhelmed, you're spontaneously crying for no reason, you shame yourself and wonder what the eff is wrong with you. Better to just say, "Are you hanging in there somehow?"

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    2. "Sleep when the baby sleeps!" Presented without comment, a text from my friend with three kids under three: "Um, yeah right! I have two other kids who are screaming in my face, piles of laundry, dirty dishes, and have to pump my breasts, but I'll take a nap, too, no prob!"

    3. "So, you're breastfeeding ..." Congrats, this is the fastest way to make a new mom cry!

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  • 12 Things You Should Never Say to a Vegetarian

    Surprise, there are other sources of protein besides meat.

    By Mark Shrayber

    I haven't eaten meat for over 10 years, which seems to shock, astonish, and anger other people around me. Most of all, though, being an herbivore brings a lot of well-meaning questions and suggestions from others that come off as mildly insensitive at best and totally offensive at worst. Here's a list of things you should avoid saying when talking to those eating a plant-based diet in your life.

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    1. Why?

    I don't know, why do you like the color blue? It's just a valid choice. Trust me, the first time you get asked this question, it's fine. So is the fifth. By the time you get to the 50th time, it's a little repetitive and feels like you have to defend your choices. Why not ask, "How did you become a vegetarian?" or "How long have you been a vegetarian?" Those questions are much more rare and sound way less accusatory.

    2. Is it some kind of religious thing?

    Sometimes! But not always! Don't assume

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  • 22 Things You Should Never Say to Someone Who Doesn't Drink

    Just because you don't like alcohol doesn't mean you don't like having fun.

    By Alyssa Bailey

    1. "You're so uptight." I may like to be in control, but just because I don't want a beer doesn't mean I can't relax or don't like fun.

    2. "Come on, live a little." I am! Alcohol isn't the only way to do so.

    3. "All I want is to see you drunk." Sorry to crush your dreams, but that's not happening. And if that's all you want in life, it's time to aspire for more.

    4. "I'm going to get you to drink." No, you're not, the same way I'm not going to get you not to drink. People get to make their own decisions, and trying to change mine on alcohol will be a failed endeavor.

    5. "Is it for religious reasons?" Whether it is or isn't, I don't think my refusing a beer should prompt an interrogation on my lifestyle.

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    6. "How are you doing this right now sober?" You're actually asking me how I'm talking to people at a party sober? Really? Surely you have too at some point. I don't know when this became a feat.

    7. "You

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  • You Won't Believe What Women Are Doing to Prevent Pregnancy

    Women are using the withdrawl method as birth control.

    By Mark Shrayber

    If you thought the pulling out method of birth control had fallen to the wayside of time (We have condoms and pills and devices now!), you'll be surprised to know that withdrawal is still alive and well in the world today.

    RELATED: The Truth Behind Your Biggest Birth Control Worries

    A new study, which surveyed 3,276 American women, found that one-third of individuals who were at risk for unwanted pregnancy had used the pulling out method (which my sex-ed teacher told me never works, but also told me that homosexuality was just a phase, so …) in the past 30 days. Even more surprising? Thirteen percent of the women surveyed said withdrawal was the most effective form of birth control they'd used in the past month. And among those women, 12 percent stated withdrawal was the only form of contraception they'd used in the past 30 days.

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    While many women used other forms of birth control along with withdrawal, the

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  • Here's the Time During the Week when You Weigh the Least

    On Fridays, you'll weigh the least you're gonna weigh all week.

    By Laura Beck

    Looking to wiggle through Zac Efron's doggie door and wrap yourself in his clothing and try to convince him not to call the cops on you? Well, your best bet at fitting through that tiny opening is on Fridays, when you weigh the least you're gonna weigh all week.

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    It's true! Or, at least it's true according to new research out of Cornell University. (Please note: There might be a study next week that's all, "OMG, you are such a fat-ass on Fridays." Science!) On the flip side, Sunday evenings are when you weigh the most. The "science" behind this is pretty easy to understand, as we gorge ourselves like little alcoholic piggies during the weekend and then eat like normal humans during the week.

    I know it's Saturday, but that's basically Friday, so please excuse me while I go to work on my night cheese (at 8 a.m. in the morning xo).

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  • 15 Things Introverts Love

    15 things introverts absolutely love.

    By Amy Odell & Lori Fradkin

    You're all in favor of a long conversation with a friend. But small talk with strangers? Not so much.

    1. Spending the day alone at home with a stack of magazines and your nicest tea. Especially when the weather is dumpy.

    RELATED: 15 Things You Should Never Say to an Introvert

    2. Long walks or runs with nothing but your music. This gets you going way more than other people.

    3. Dinners with one person or a couple of people instead of huge group gatherings. A lot of your friends are in different social groups anyway so this always works out best. Not only is it less overwhelming, it's easier to split the check.

    4. Binging on Netflix instead of going out. Forced small talk is bad enough, but it somehow feels even more difficult when you're talking to a drunk man in a fedora with a shark's tooth around his neck.

    5. Quiet, by Susan Cain. This nonfiction book explains the fascinating, secret powers of introverts and is near-impossible to put

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  • 20 Life-Changing Shortcuts to Make Adulthood Easier

    Don't you want to know how to get a glass of white wine cold in five minutes?

    By Anna Breslaw

    Don't you want to know how to get a glass of white wine cold in five minutes?

    1. Always get the name of the person you are speaking with. Because an effective way to argue with some corporate person on the other line is not: "The person I spoke with last time I called Con Ed said that I'd paid my bill." That sounds like you either spoke to a ghost or are trying to scam the electric company. Save yourself some time and energy: "I spoke to Ashley, her employee number is 1234567, and she said I'd paid my bill."

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    2. Leave your heels under your desk at work and wear sneakers for the commute. It may feel fun and rom-commy to be running through the streets to work in your heels, but that wears off its charm the second you feel the first blister forming.

    3. You don't have to drop a zillion dollars on anti-aging face cream - just get a drugstore brand with retinol. Our beauty editor Carly Cardellino says

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  • The 4 Health Benefits of Dark Chocolate

    Dark chocolate

    By Elizabeth Stark

    A lot of scientific studies you read about often seem too good to be true, and they usually are; sadly, Croatian scientists will probably never find that 74 percent of subjects who ate only cake actually lost weight,or that a caramel latte a day will reduce your risk of stroke. But sometimes, on a few glorious occasions, it turns out something you love actually is good for you.

    I'm talking about chocolate here. So let's really talk about chocolate. Not all chocolate packs the same healthful punch - the kind you can eat with moderate abandon (an ounce or so a day) is dark chocolate, cocoa, or cacao. Look for chocolate that touts a 70 percent or greater cocoa content, and then get down to the healthy business of inhaling it. Milk chocolate and even a lot of "dark chocolate" candy bars have tons of sugar and a lot of fat either introduced or reintroduced in manufacturing. So any health benefits you get from these are going to be outweighed by the added sugar

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  • 6 Machines to Avoid at the Gym

    6 machines to avoid at the gym.

    By Frank Kobola

    And what you should do instead.

    To beginners, a gym can look like an overwhelming sea of torture devices. It's easy to lose focus on your workout because of a lack of understanding, or a poor choice of equipment. As a general rule, free weight or free standing exercises work more muscle groups and don't force your body into uncomfortable positions, but, like everything, different things work for different people. Personal trainer Brooke Marrone walked me through several machines it's best to avoid and their superior alternatives.

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    1. AVOID: The seated leg extension. "This can put your knees at high risk," warns Marrone. Most machines force you to move the way the machine moves, and it's important to use natural movements, she says. "You were just at work all day sitting down, and you're coming to the gym and now you're sitting at another machine. It's really important to move your body."

    INSTEAD: Do squats. A basic

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  • 11 Empowering Quotes from Plus-Size Models

    Empowering quotes from plus-size models.

    By Laura Beck

    Hayley Hasselhoff

    1. "Growing up, I never accepted my curves, but when I got the opportunity to become a plus size model, I was able to appreciate my voluptuous body and love myself, not only on the outside, but on the inside."

    2. "At the end of the day, we are all trying to feel comfortable in any type of size - plus size or not."

    Tess Munster

    3. "Fat is a trigger word. But if you use it often enough, it simply describes another one of your qualities. I think what helps me is taking the hurt out of the word. In the beginning I called myself curvy and all bodies have curves. So I would always myself curvy and get upset when people called me fat. Owning it gives me strength: yeah, I'm fat-but I'm also all the good things that I am."

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    Crystal Renn

    4. "[Someone] told me that the entire time I was in makeup, the stylist had been clomping up and down the hall, sputtering into her cell phone, 'I can't believe I have

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