If the title of this article disturbs your sensibilities, I suggest you give the piece a miss.
This one glorifies gay men, and yes, I think the word 'homosexual' has acquired derogatory connotations, so I opted to use the slang term instead.
I was about to name this post 'Why women trust gay men so implicitly' or '5 reasons women get along so well with gay men', but I decided against it since that would be the less direct approach, and I'm trying to cut to the chase here. I'm sure you've noticed that gay men get along famously with women.
Whatever the reason, there's certainly a certain level of comfort that women develop with gay men, and so it might be worth your while to analyse what exactly it is that allows gay men to get along so beautifully with women.
1. Gay men don't give a damn
Nothing says self assured and confident more than a man who just doesn’t care what others think about him. And confidence is irresistible because it explicitly gives the rest of the world the permission to be themselves too. Women are prone to emotional outbursts, but social etiquette demands that we pretend to be rational and unemotional. Then along comes someone who is confident enough to rock a pair of skinny jeans and a pink T-shirt, and we women can’t help being blown away.
Lesson 1: Self assurance is different from a swagger. Learn to tell the difference.
2. Gay men are in touch with their feminine side
Competitiveness and shows of strength are no more the prerogative of men than caregiving and shows of affection are the sole privilege of the fairer sex. It’s the 21st century. Just as men soon get impatient with delicate darlings or fussy debutantes, women are turned off by an excess of Neanderthal virility. Gay men might be too feminine sometimes, but it’s refreshing to have a guy friend who understands your mood swings, who can tell when you’ve had a haircut, and who appreciates the difference between maroon and burgundy.
Lesson 2: Revealing a sensitive side makes you more of a man, not less of one.
3. Gay men don’t ogle, they appreciate
I grant that straight men might find it difficult to concentrate on the glass when that which the glass contains is so fascinating, but really, we’d like to be appreciated for our taste in clothes and jewellery instead of you just gaping at our bosoms. We’d like to think of you as persons first and sex-crazed primals afterwards. And a woman always knows what you’re thinking when she catches you looking at her…how could she not, when you’re staring her right in the chest?
Lesson 3: If you must look, steal a glance, and don’t let us catch you ogling. After that, focus on the personality, not just on the package.
4. Gay men value the finer things in life
I'm not sure why, but nearly every gay man I’ve known has been an sincere fan of reading, music, theatre, or something intellectually stimulating. I don’t know whether it’s just a show they put on, but a man who converses easily about the arts seems more cultured, somehow, that the louts whose sole interests seem to be football and bar hopping. Women flock to men who can play a musical instrument or appreciate movies with happy endings for similar reasons.
Lesson 4: We love it when you can flaunt a six-pack, but variety is the spice of life, baby. Only sports and rock music makes you oh-so-average.
Then, add all the less consequential things: gay men are more particular about they way they dress and behave, they’re more clean and tidy, they seem more genuine, they have wider vocabularies. Most women today really couldn’t care less what a man’s sexual preferences are, as long as he is considerate and genuine. Can you blame gay men then, for getting all the brownie points?
There are plenty of guys who can boast of having the best of both worlds, though, and I don’t mean bisexuals. Because a straight man who is confident, affectionate, appreciative and interesting is like a real-life Captain Jack Sparrow: sexy as hell!
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